Find Your Why

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There are two great days in a person’s life – the day we are born and the day we discover why.” Rachel Corrie

If you knew you couldn't fail, you would dream like you did when you were young, creative, and fearless.

You would create "big, hairy and audacious goals;" would not let anything get in your away of achieving them; and, pursue them like you crave air, food, water, shelter, and other survival needs.

So, why is it that most people abandon their dreams and goals when they get older and especially when they face reality (aka obstacles)? It could be for many reasons; however, involve five negative behaviors:

  1.  Not having a "why" which is larger than your obstacles
  2.  Not understanding your motivational blocks and getting past them
  3.  Not thinking big enough ... about your dream life
  4.  Not setting goals and creating a plan to achieve them
  5.  Not following through and staying motivated

I knew early on that I had to focus on critical areas to help me overcome poverty, a speech impediment, and blatant racism. 

So, while not knowing it, Maslow's Hierachy of Needs of was key to understand and improve in if we were to succeed against the odds.


Like most children growing up in the south in the early 1950s, our extended family living concept helped to meet our Basic needs (food, water, warmth, rest, security and safety) and most of our Psychological needs (intimate relationships, friends).

However, we struggled with prestige and feeling of accomplishment, which is a major part in the Psychological needs area. Also, the area of Self-fulfillment needs (self-actualization - achieving one's full potential, including creative activities) was an obstacle.

My spirituality (way beyond religion); recognition of the universal laws; and, a loving family helped me to believe there was a lot more to my life than what I was experiencing. I sought to find my why.

The answer for me was finding a way to imagine a better life – which started the thoughts of accountability and how could I improve my lfe?

These thoughts turned into ideas and were amplified into action when my favorite Aunt Rebecca would take us into the city to spend special days or the entire summers with her.

I always knew that a solid education would get me ahead of the game and bothered my older sister to let me see her homework. I also spent a lot of time staring at the clouds and imagining I was flying on one of them.

While watching the U.S. Navy Blue Angels flying overhead, I imagined being a pilot and soaring with the angels. Yet, 20 years later I had to  acknowledge my deep fear of flying and heights over 50 feet (lol).

Over the years, my why may have changed, but it always kept me focused – be better and make others around you better than me.

Let's Work on Finding Your Why

So, what would you do, if you knew you couldn’t fail? Would you chase your why to the ends of the earth and dedicate your life to living your true dreams? That is one way of finding it ...

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