1. What is your professional background?
For the celebrity seeker or sports fan, I am not the father of a star basketball player. I am a retired United States Air Force Lieutenant Colonel; former senior manager with two Fortune 300 companies; and, a retired General Schedule (GS-15) civilian. I am also passionate about helping others -- who want to work -- say NO to their doubters and YES to their dreams.
2. What were 5 of the most challenging obstacles in your life?
I was fortunate to be challenged by poverty; stuttering; racism; raised in a single-parent home; and, "being different." While having to prove myself for 65 years, I still thrive on the challenge. My dreams remain a lot larger than those of my doubters, especially since I know my why; mastered the how; and, know when to adjust the related actions to get the desired results.
3. Why did you want to change?
In March 1987, I was a very successful career professional; however, my personal life was in dire need of attention. Through books, compact discs, and magazines, I sought out virtual mentors who were where I wanted to be, specifically with work:life balance.
4. What tools and resources helped you to change?
I used books; cassette tapes; compact discs; magazines; opportunity meetings; and, asking questions. My breakthrough came as a result of finding virtual mentors (not in my family or the same zip code) who were where I wanted to be. Most importantly, they had mastered career and life balance.
5. Who were some of your Virtual Mentors and what did they teach you?
Thanks to Earl Nightingale, Jim Rohn, Les Brown, Randy Gage, Jerry Clark and a few others ... I learned how to identify my why; commit to related core lifestyle beliefs; and, persistently focus on improving the related behaviors as I faced obstacles to achieving them.
6. What were your key action steps to change?
I created a more focused personal vision; kept my heart and gut aligned with my goals; said yes to my dreams; and, decided these changes were part of my life transformation. I did not treat any of this as an event, but as a process to work until I leave this earth.
7. What is the significance of your seven core lifestyle pillars?
Over the years, I learned the powers of focus, relevancy, and simplicity on which my lifestyle pillars are based. Everyone must: (1) work (career); (2) be involved where we work and live (community); (3) manage money and our resources (finance); (4) live mindfully (health and wellness); (5) be involved with others (relationships); (6) believe in someone or something higher (spirituality); and, (7) get away beyond their zip native code (travel).
Since my high school days, some of these pillars were in my subconsciousness and rose to great importance during my March 1987 transformation. They remain the cornerstone of my life transformation. I adjust them as needed to succeed, but never will change them. Focusing on them has ensured I did not retire sick or broke.
8. How can you help me?
You can learn from my answers to the above topics. Also, take heed of my credo since 1978 (college student): "don't let anyone steal what is in your head, in your heart, or in your gut. For when you let them, you have given up your destiny." Also, remember that "opportunity + choices = lifestyle." There aren't too many chances to redo life.
9. Where is more proof of your successes?
You must prove to yourself that changes in your life will make a difference for you and your family. My goal is to provide resources, which when dutifully applied. can help you keep your goals larger than your obstacles. You still must do the work. I am unsure about you, but it took me over 30 years and many heartaches, changes, disappointments, etc. to realize my dreams on a consistent basis. Click here to get more proof about me.
10. What happens if I don't do anything?Quite simply this quote from one of my Virtual Mentors will apply to you: “The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry our their dream.” Les Brown's Live Your Dreams via my Amazon link.
Before you can transform your life, you must reassess and most likely reprogram your belief system. We can help.
Am I Bragging or Challenging You?
Let's get real ... I am doing a little of both.
Had I let society's labels placed on me early in life impact my desires; yield to distractions; be overcome by negativism; quit because of non-believers around me, I would have given up. Thank goodness, quitting is not in my DNA nor will it ever be.
Instead, take off the green lenses and try to learn from reading this. Most importantly, use some of my story to help you conquer your obstacles or those from others you let overcome your life.
As kids, we are often impacted by a lot of things we can't change; however, we must remember that God predestined a lot of things for us to change and then spread the word to help others try to achieve what they are willing to focus on and work hard at.
When we don't hit the mark or use all of the tools available to us ... we can't blame politics, the government, someone else or the system. We can only blame ourselves for not "understanding the universal system (life is not fair) and consistently doing the work."
Find that lost child in you -- the one with those big dreams, curiosity, minimal to no fear, refusal to accept the first no. If you can't remember that person or don't have children of your own, then rekindle that big dream for your family or community.
But, please ... do something to leave your space better than you found it. Be a spring and not that sponge.
Don't be an "unequivocally stupid a......" and fall into the traps of politics, religion, slogans, and other distractions. Stop being thin-skinned or a robot responding to chants and characterizations.
Be you, find your why, and chase it until you die! Don't take those your dreams to the cemetery nor leave them to chance.
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Remember ... "don't let anyone steal what is in your head, in your heart, or in your gut. For when they do, you have given up your destiny." If you feel led, take the pledge and live to your fullest.
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